Allow yourself to go all the way through them or else you can never get to being detached, you are too busy being afraid. You are afraid of pain, you are afraid of the grief. You are afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails.
Experience the pain, experience the grieve, experience the loneliness and experience the anger. Now I know what these emotion are like. I have nothing to be fear about, I learn to receive and overcome it. I start learning to detach from it. I tell myself it is time to learn other things do not dwell too much over the same thing over and over again. The world is turning, I cannot stop and wait.